How can stay true to yourself if you put partner on a pedestal?

[Machi62 December 6, 2025 at 5:57 pm Post count: 0]

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I recently broke up with my boyfriend and I feel like I might have considered him too perfect. I mean, I put him on a pedestal, you know? Understanding this statement is quite a challenge. I remember every meeting, every thing he said, and it seems like everything was perfect even though it wasn’t. Now I don’t know how to distinguish a person’s real qualities from my expectations. Have you ever had your heart broken by expectations? So, how’d you deal?

[Linbi45 December 7, 2025 at 2:05 pm Post count: 0]

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In fact, I was also in a <span class=”g0-inline-suggestion” data-g0-suggetion-diff-id=”modification-25-29″>case</span> where I overly idealized my ex. So, I was the one who was making excuses for them, you know? Instead of accepting reality, I was living in a dream. Are you often having an idea of what you want and then worrying that it will not be as good as you expect? My <span class=”g0-inline-suggestion” data-g0-suggetion-diff-id=”modification-288-294″>bestie</span> and one article on soulmatcher were my great helpers at that time. The thing to remember is that putting someone on a pedestal is a very common trap. I hope things go well for you moving forward, and that you’ll try to fix some of these mindsets, if you know what I mean. I think it’s good to take a little break. For me, it took a few months to learn how to trust someone in a new way, and finally, I had a positive experience. We’ve been together for five years now.

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